My Life - Pregnancy Before Marriage

The concept of pregnancy before marriage aka shotgun marriage, the used-to-be somewhat taboo topic is becoming a norm in society.

I was a rather calm soul (and so I thought) when it happened but no matter how common this is becoming, I came to realise I had underestimated the series of cause and effect of the so-called shotgun marriage. 

Many many questions rushed through my mind the moment I look at the positively-looking pregnancy kit in my office toilet:

Should I keep the baby? (This was never a question for me but I would presume it had happened to many out there.)

Should I tell him?

What should we do after that?

How would he react? Etc. 

Being the logical me, I had all the answers at the back of my mind. I was determined to keep my baby irregardless of the answers I get. Because it's a life and he's mine and I was sure that with my capability and independence, I am able to bring him up on my own. This is of course thinking about the worse case scenario.

I popped the question to him the very same day I knew about it. It was at the same void deck we hang around at almost every night. I remembered it was a little awkward. He took a few steps back and his breathing was getting harder. He looked flustered in a confusing manner. But I was glad. It didn't take him too long to smile back and gave me a huge bear hug. I guess we were happy that common grounds are made. 

Trust me, it is considerably easy to make the decision but going through the process is a tough bitch.

Making choices

Like what my hubs often reminded me of, life is about making choices. And within the shortest period of time one could have, we had made a choice to spend a lifetime together. Is it because of our baby? Probably. But we trusted each other that everything will eventually work out. It is by far the toughest choice we've made but it will get easier and it really did.

Breaking The News

Guess what, it is never just between the two of you. 

Family. Friends. Colleagues. And surprisingly social media (SM) = the whole damn world who follows you. I'm not the most active person on SM platforms but I am aware of how this has become part of the 'person' you have to announce/tell it to for such breaking news. 

My Personal Advice: Try to contain certain news. Not because you are not proud of it but you could make use of the time (explaining to others) for better use like dealing with First Trimester or Getting Married.

Actually I find myself extremely lucky. Majority of our family and friends are supportive, not agreeable to the action itself but very supportive. We had the most embracing family members around and couldn't be more grateful that they had made this pregnancy-marriage journey a little easier by being simply embracing.

Any regrets? This is a common question I get from some of my friends after they had personally seen how tough it was to be in our shoes and I hope I will be driven enough to cover the snippets of my experiences in this blog and share it with everyone. 

My answer is no, but of course we could have done it in a better way that could our lives a little easier.

It is a choice and we live with it, move on to make it a better journey.